The other day, I was researching a wife of one of the pioneers buried in our cemetery. I came across an ad in 1897 that she had placed in the newspaper. She had a business in her home called a "toilet parlor", and of course, I was surprised!
In late 19th-century America, the phrase “toilet parlor” did not refer to a bathroom, but to a discreet and fashionable space for women’s grooming, hairdressing, and beauty treatments. The word “toilet” derived from toilette—the French term for the rituals of dressing and personal care—while “parlor” suggested refinement and privacy.
For much of the 19th century, women’s beauty culture carried
a social stigma. Cosmetics were associated with actresses or “painted women,”
and many respectable women avoided overt grooming outside the home. A toilet
parlor solved this dilemma. By providing a female-centered, parlor-like
atmosphere, these establishments offered:
- Privacy: women could have their hair styled or receive treatments away from the male-dominated barber shop.
- Respectability: the word “parlor” softened the act of professional grooming, presenting it as genteel rather than vain.
- Social comfort: toilet parlors often doubled as gathering spots, where women could converse in safe, female-only environments.
One of the most influential figures in legitimizing women’s beauty spaces was Martha Matilda Harper, a Canadian immigrant who opened her first public hair salon in Rochester, New York, in 1888. Harper introduced innovations such as the reclining shampoo chair and emphasized cleanliness, health, and moral uplift alongside beauty. She also pioneered one of the earliest franchise systems, spreading “Harper Method” salons across the U.S. and abroad, helping to transform hairdressing into a respected profession for women.
At the same time, trade publications like The American Hairdresser (founded in 1877 and later renamed American Salon) chronicled the rise of professional beauty culture. These journals helped standardize techniques, advertised new products, and promoted the idea of the beauty parlor as a legitimate business rather than a questionable indulgence.
In practice, a toilet parlor was the forerunner of the
modern beauty salon. Inside, women might find:
- Hairdressing and wig services
- Facial massages, skin treatments, and “toilet waters” (light perfumes)
- Manicures and nail buffing
- A parlor furnished with chairs, mirrors, and draped curtains—designed to feel more like a sitting room than a shop
By the 1890s, toilet parlors reflected a broader cultural
shift. What once might have branded a woman as frivolous or “wayward” was
increasingly recast as a mark of modern refinement and self-care. Thanks to
pioneers like Martha Harper and the professionalization of the trade, the
toilet parlor laid the foundation for today’s beauty salons.
